Men Therapy Toronto
Sexual Abuse in Men
The sexual abuse of men or rather men who have been sexually abused as children is much more common than many may think. Data suggests that 1 in 6 men were sexually abused as children. The impact on men of being sexually abused as boys is often overwhelming. Most boys are sexually abused by men which compounds the pain of the abuse.
At its core, sexual abuse is an abuse of power. The net result for a man who was once sexually abused is an overwhelming feeling of powerlessness. The man often grows up feeling as if he is powerless. He generally feels emasculated. This feeling of emasculation is a pervasive feeling that somehow he is defective or inadequate as a man. He embodies wounded masculinity. Here are the general processes men who were once sexually abused experience.
IMPORTANT: Not all men will experience these exact consequences. Every man is different and may experience or relate with one or some of the items below.
- Emasculated – they feel somehow inadequate as a man
- Effeminate – they embody effeminate behaviors simply because they are so ashamed of themselves as men & feel ashamed embodying male roles
- Sexuality Issues – often severe sexual orientation confusion exists, impotence & premature ejaculation & sexually addictive behaviors (including aviodance of sex)
- Isolation & loneliness – being in relationships of any types becomes difficult and almost unbearable