Men Therapy Toronto
Powerlessness
Powerlessness is not related to a lack of physical, intellectual, or financial strength. The experience of powerlessness in men is the experience of not feeling whole. Many men may experience power in certain areas of their life but not in others. For example, men may take great pride in their corporate or vocational success which provides an experience of power, and yet have an inexistent social or intimate life (powerlessness).
The feeling of powerlessness is connected with pain because when a man feels powerless it is excruciatingly painful. The area where the individual feels most vulnerable (powerless) is often the area that is most avoided. The man who is very successful in business may want all his social interactions to revolve around that subject because in that subject he feels powerful. All men have areas in their life where if they look closely they will realize that they feel powerless. The pain of feeling powerlessness almost always results in making suboptimal choices.