Men Therapy Toronto offers Addiction Treatment, Therapy & Counselling Services for Men.
Addictions are very powerful.
The experience of an addiction is one of powerlessness and shame. The man will experience confusion as to why they can not stop behaviour that they intellectually believe they want to stop (powerlessness). In addition, the simple fact of not being able to stop coupled with the actual behaviour (i.e. alcohol, drugs, sex, porn, gambling) creates a deep experience of shame. The man starts to believe and embody the idea or belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with them (shame). The cycle deepens once the man begins to focus his attention on simply stopping the negative addictive behaviour. The addictive behaviour is rarely the problem but rather simply the symptom of the actual problem. This is why trying to simply stop the addictive behaviour without making any other changes generally will not work.
Recovery from addictions requires hard work & commitment.
Regaining one’s power which had been lost to addiction requires hard work and commitment. It is rare for a man to simply stop an addictive behaviour the moment they’ve decided to try to do something about it. Generally. a man gains power over addiction through hard work and time. The hard work is most often focused on what has been driving a man to act out. The man will need to focus on that area while also making efforts to no longer indulge in the addictive behaviour.
