Love for the healthy masculine is not being described as romantic love. The love being described here is a deeper inward love. It is easy to intellectually know the importance of loving oneself but how does one do it in actuality. One can only love oneself through actions. The healthy masculine takes those actions regularly and daily. They are not always very large actions but can include taking care of one’s physical health by eating well and exercise, cleaning their homes, speaking up for themselves without anger or judgement, not speaking when they have already spoken. Other actions of self-love can include reaching out to a family member or listening intently to a loved one. The man who is maturing into the healthy masculine will also learn to love the parts of himself that he had previously hated; anger, cowardness, arrogance, jealousy etc. He will accept that those parts served a purpose even though he need no longer act on them.
Yes, the positive consequence of a deeper inward love is a much deeper and greater outward love. The healthy masculine will love a committed partner more deeply and without attachment. He will do the same for his children, family members, friends and members of his community. He will reflect with his actions the man and individual he was born to be.
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“The man who is maturing into the healthy masculine will also learn to love the parts of himself that he had previously hated.”