A Different Kind of Masculinity Authentic masculinity means deciding what masculinity means for you. Tenderness does not have to cancel strength. Vulnerability does not have to cancel confidence. Asking for help does not have to cancel independence. So often do I have to remind clients that I have worked with that the concepts of “Courage” […]
Personal Integrated Change Toward Authenticity Change doesn’t necessarily mean becoming someone new. Sometimes it means becoming more authentically you. Throughout my career as a social worker and counsellor, this is the perspective I have taken when approaching meeting my clients at moments of uncertainty in their lives. Specifically regarding my counselling and therapy work with […]
Fatherhood has the potential to be a gift of radical self awareness. Being a father today means trying to balance modern expectations of men while confronting unconscious models of masculinity—often losing and rediscovering ourselves in the process. In taking the leap, we deepen our relationships with our children and gain a more complex view of […]
If a man chooses not to view pornography, it is easy to become fixated on avoiding the habit. This fixation might consume his thoughts and become a central focus of his life. The previous article in this series established that managing urges is an important pillar to stopping any habit. However, in the long term, […]
Previous articles in this series have established that pornography addiction is not an official diagnosis. However, applying a diagnostic label to identify and treat problematic behaviour is unnecessary. An individual can view a behaviour as a problem in their life, even if it does not have an official diagnosis. For example, social media addiction is […]
Pornography viewing is common among men, with various studies offering statistics on its prevalence. One study concluded that 80% of American men viewed pornography at some point in their lives (Miller et al., 2020). The same study also found that 44% of men viewed pornography every week. High pornography viewing rates were also consistent across […]
The previous articles in this series established that pornography viewing is not an officially recognised addiction and that habitual viewing does not mirror the process of development of substance-based addictions. However, a man does not need to have a pornography addiction diagnosis to decide that it is a problem for him. And the job of […]
The previous article in this series established that pornography addiction is not an official diagnosis in the mental health field. In the absence of an official diagnosis, some mental health researchers and professionals have attempted to apply other models of addiction to pornography viewing. One common model is the substance dependence model of addiction, which […]
The previous articles in this series examined the potential benefits of online dating, offered advice on managing users’ expectations, and considered challenges and risks common to men using dating apps. In this final article, we turn our attention to steps that men can take to improve their online (and real world) dating experience. There is […]
Dating apps offer a wide array of potential benefits to users. The first article in this series examined some of these benefits. The second article was a primer on managing expectations while using dating apps. This article will examine common challenges that men face when using dating apps. It will also identify some risks, supported […]